d) Separated or Divorced
Persons Who Have Not Remarried
83. Various reasons can unfortunately lead to
the often irreparable breakdown of valid marriages. These include mutual lack
of understanding and the inability to enter into interpersonal relationships.
Obviously, separation must be considered as a last resort, after all other
reasonable attempts at reconciliation have proved vain.
Loneliness and other difficulties are often the
lot of separated spouses, especially when they are the innocent parties. The
ecclesial community must support such people more than ever. It must give them
much respect, solidarity, understanding and practical help, so that they can
preserve their fidelity even in their difficult situation; and it must help
them to cultivate the need to forgive which is inherent in Christian love, and
to be ready perhaps to return to their former married life.
The situation is similar for people who have
undergone divorce, but, being well aware that the valid marriage bond is
indissoluble, refrain from becoming involved in a new union and devote
themselves solely to carrying out their family duties and the responsibilities
of Christian life. In such cases their example of fidelity and Christian
consistency takes on particular value as a witness before the world and the
Church. Here it is even more necessary for the Church to offer continual love
and assistance, without there being any obstacle to admission to the
sacraments.
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