There must be no lip-service; it has to be real. All discomfort within us, all unhappiness, fear or worry, have been created by ourselves. Only then is the field wide open for change. That moment of acceptance and realization changes our whole world because now we can do something about our lives. Until then we were helpless victims. We cannot change the world or other people; we can hardly even change the behavior of a dog, but we can change ourselves. As long as we only believe this, but don't do it, we haven't started to practice. We can even sit in meditation, but no results will show in our lives.